Wedding Wednesday: Top 5 Things to Know About Being a Bridesmaid

Happy Wedding Wednesday!  I hope you’re having a great week!

I was asked to cover today’s topic by one of my friends and very loyal readers.  She’s a concerned bridesmaid, who feels like none of the other maids are on the ball with their duties.  She’s especially concerned about throwing the bridal shower and bachelorette parties.  Never fear, friend!  I’m here with the Top 5 Things to Know About Being a Bridesmaid.

1. Understand Your Role. Agreeing to be a bridesmaid doesn’t just mean you buy a “tacky” dress, and show up the day of the wedding to dance and drink the night away.  Being a bridesmaid serves a much more practical purpose – you are agreeing to assist the bride in the planning and execution of her wedding day.   It’s your job to help her put together the details, from dress-fittings to stuffing invitation envelopes. You should never let someone take advantage of you, but it’s important to remember that you’ve agreed to help her. This especially goes for the day of the wedding. You should be ready and willing to fetch her lipstick before the photos, help her hold her dress while she uses the restroom, find her lost slippers for dancing time.. but don’t forget to have fun too!

2.  Just Say No. If you can not fully commit to being someone’s maid, you should absolutely not agree to being one.  Be honest with yourself about how much you are able to commit.  If you’re really low on funds, pregnant, moving, or just don’t think you can do it all, you won’t make the best maid and may cause unnecessary stress for you and the bride.   Just make sure you’re honest with her, and clearly explain the reasons why you’re declining the honor.  Also, make sure to tell her  in a timely manner, so you are on the same page.  She may be disappointed, but if you explain that you are trying to do her a favor, she’ll probably appreciate your honesty.

3.  Don’t Be a Diva.  While bridesmaid dresses have come a LONG way, you may be stuck wearing something you’d rather not. These dresses can also come with some surprising price tags. That’s just too bad, love! I know it can be hard to spend money on a dress you don’t love, but, the moment you accept your position as bridesmaid, you accept that the bride has the final say on all things wedding-related, and you will have to spend some money.   Try to keep a positive attitude and remember, when you get to be the bride, you can wear whatever you want!  This also applies to the other details of the wedding. Even if you don’t particularly love the centerpieces, the colors, the song choices, just keep your opinion to yourself.  Nobody wants a divalicious maid, and you really don’t want to be that girl

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4. Leave Time to Plan the Bridal Shower.  The bridesmaids, especially the Maid of Honor, are typically the ones who throw the bridal shower.  Wedding etiquette says showers should take place at least 4 to 6 weeks prior to the wedding date.  Bridal Shower invitations should go out at least 4 weeks prior.  While some say that every woman invited to the wedding should be invited to the shower – this is simply not true. You should invite all the bridesmaids (obviously,) mothers of the bride and groom, sisters of the bride and groom, and other close family, friends and coworkers.  You should start planning the shower at least 3 months before the shower date, especially if you’re planning on having it at a banquet facility. These venues book up QUICKLY, and you may have difficulty securing a date if you wait too long.  Be sure to include the bride, and the mothers, when choosing the shower’s date. You will need to leave the bride enough time to register for her gifts!  Don’t forget, you’ll also be responsible for putting together the menu, games, favors, decorations and more.  It’s a lot of work, but don’t worry, you can do it!

5. Have Fun!  Enjoy this day and the honor that’s been bestowed on you as a bridesmaid.  You’ve worked hard to get there too, so make sure to hit the dance floor ASAP and laugh the night away!  Just don’t have TOO much fun… you don’t wanna be the crazy drunk girl everyone is laughing at over brunch the next day!

For more fantastic tips check out these links from The Knot 🙂

1o Ways for Bridesmaids to Help Out

Bridesmaids: Bridesmaid Duties in Detail

Do you have any questions or funny stories about being a bridesmaid?  Leave a comment below!

XO, Stephanie


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